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Why you shouldn’t worry

August 15th, 2007 by Kenric

I try not to worry about anything.  I never really understood the meaning of the word because its all about the act of thinking thoughts that make you feel bad.  People usually worry about something in which they have no control over.  Because if they did, they wouldn’t be worried about it, they would be doing something about it.

Sometimes when I think of something too much, I ask myself if I’m worrying about something that I can’t control, or if I can do something about it at that moment.  If I find that I can do something about it, then I go through what I can do to give me a positive result.  If I can’t do anything about it, then I stop worrying about it.

There is a big distinction between worrying and thinking.  If you are awake thinking, you are thinking of solutions or action items to do the next day.  The definition of worry from dictionary.com - is to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts.  It’s like asking a bunch of what if questions with disturbing answers.

For example, let’s say you had a showing to a potential renter and that you really needed these renters to rent my home or you couldn’t make a payment in 2 days.  It’s 12am and you’re laying in bed worrying about whether this renter will call back tomorrow.  Ask yourself, what can you do at 12am to change the situation?  Nothing.  So why worry about it?  It’s not worth the energy.

Now if you are thinking about the situation at 12am, instead of worrying, think about what you can do to get this person to rent your home tomorrow.  You could call them in the morning and get feedback, call them and lower your rental price, call them and offer an incentive, etc…  The point is that these are all things that you can actively do to alter the result that you are worrying about.

Remember in school when you took a test and you leave worried that you may have failed it?  Then you worry the rest of the day?  I never understood this.  The test done.  There’s nothing you can do to change its results.  Go out and have fun.  Once you get your results on Monday then you decide your next course of action.

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